3 Reasons Why You Are Falling Short Of Success And How To Fix It
“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it” – Jordan Belfort
Haven’t you asked yourself many times over and over again what it is that you don’t have in comparison to the successful people in life? Why are you falling short of success? What separates them from you? Is it their work ethic or their circumstances that made them successful? Or maybe they were just lucky…they were in the right place at the right time. But then again, how does one know where to be at when it is the right time? No offence, but if you’ve ever asked yourself questions like these then no wonder why you aren’t successful. Questions like these have one thing in common: they’re always about external factors and never about oneself. You’re asking yourself the wrong questions and you’re avoiding the actual problem on why you fall short to achieve success.
Below are the 3 reasons why you may be falling short of success and how you can fix it
1. You’re thinking short term.
You’re probably thinking: ‘’no, I’m not thinking short term. I want to achieve my goals within 10 years.’’ However, this is exactly what short-term thinking is. You want to achieve success within a certain period. But what happens when you don’t achieve your goals within a certain period? Does that mean you have failed? It will certainly feel like it, but it doesn’t have to mean you actually failed. It could also mean that you just simply need more time to accomplish your goals. But when you’ve put a deadline for yourself to accomplish your goals, you won’t think about any other reasons other than the one that you’ve failed.
Solution: Create a vision for yourself. Having a vision gives you a sense of purpose and direction. You’ll cope much better with short term failures, since you know what the bigger picture looks like. Furthermore, it will also give you a sense of calmness, because you’ll realize that achieving something big doesn’t happen overnight and you’re completely fine with it. Remember: your dream doesn’t have an expiration date.
2. You’re avoiding responsibility.
Not taking responsibility is one of the worst things you can ever do, because if you’re not taking responsibility for your actions in your life, then how can you expect to ever move towards your goals? If you’ve never reviewed your actions then how can you find out what you’re doing right and in which areas you should improve? You’re the only one that’s getting negatively affected by making excuses for yourself or by your procrastination. Avoiding your responsibilities is a sign of immaturity; it’s a sign that you aren’t ready to begin with your journey to success. Basically, you’re saying that you want to be successful, but your actions show differently.
Solution: Find a reason why you should take your responsibility. A great way to do this is to put ‘positive pressure’ on yourself. Let’s say for example, that you want to make your parents proud and want to give them a better life, so you tell them you are going to make sure that they will have anything that they want, when you become successful. When you fail to live up to your word you’re not only letting yourself down, but also your parents. Letting someone else down is a much worse feeling than only yourself. Believe me, you want to avoid this feeling at all cost, because you don’t want to make promises you can’t keep and especially towards people you care about in your life. This additional, but crucial motivation should drive you to go relentlessly after what you want in life with no more excuses!
3. Your ‘Why’ isn’t strong enough
Do you really want to be successful or do you just ‘kinda’ want it? Your ‘Why’ should motivate you and inspire you to do the same thing over and over again with the same excitement each time. Don’t expect to achieve success when you’re only going half in. Your desire to succeed should be much stronger than your fears to fail. If your ‘Why’ isn’t strong enough then you’ll most likely fail. Because when your foundation isn’t build right then every struggle you’ll endure during your road to success will make you doubt yourself and you’ll think every time about giving up whenever you’re facing an obstacle.
“When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful”. – Eric Thomas
ET really hits the nail on the head with his famous expression. If you really want to succeed in whatever you’re doing, then you should talk, breath and dream about success. You need to find out what your deepest desires are; why do you feel like you deserve to achieve success? Why you?! Delve deep into your desires and find out what it is that drives you. When you find those ‘core’ reasons, write them down. Reaffirm yourself every day of these reasons about why you want to be successful, until it’s ‘stuck’ in your head just like the alphabet! You need to internally set yourself up for success before you expect success on the outside and reaffirming yourself on a daily basis of your ‘Why’ is the best way to do that.
I hope that you realize by now, that you need to stop with questioning yourself and blaming external factors for not having achieved the success you seek. You can accomplish big things in your life. However in order to do so, you first need to have the right ‘foundation’ on which your success will be built!