6 Things to Do When Your Life Is Falling Apart
1. Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness Meditation has been the most impactful activity I do every single day. If you are looking for a sense of direction, and solid base to build an integral foundation of character.
Meditation teaches you discipline, increases your flow states, and slows down your mind and be conscious of your thoughts and emotions.
Meditation decreases the stress produced by your body and improve the areas of your brain responsible for empathy and love. I used to think meditation was a hippie gimmick as an excuse to sit around and do nothing. Once I started, I soon realized I was wrong and this negative perception of meditation had held me back from experiencing the benefits of it.
Please don’t say “I can’t meditate because I can’t clear my mind”. Of course you can’t you are only human. Mindfulness meditation isn’t about “clearing your head”.
Fearless Motivation recommends Synctuition – The words first 3d Sound Meditation Platform – It is truly amazing.
Give meditation a try and let me know how it works out for you in the comments in a couple weeks!
2. Put Your Head Down and Work
“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.” — Martin Luther King
Last summer I was moving to New York from Massachusetts. Woke up early at 5 am and packed everything into the U-Haul truck. On the way I stopped by Dunkin Donuts to get coffee. I began thinking to myself “Wow I’m about to drive 4 hours to New York and then move heavy stuff. ”
I stopped myself. Observed myself and the situation that I was in. I told myself “I’m Mark and I’m going to drive for 4 hours. This is it. This is happening.”
I soon realized I was in a Zen state. Driving for hours wasn’t actually bad but I automatically perceived it as something awful and grueling. Right when I changed my mindset on it I was no longer tired or irritated. I was happy because I’m about to go on an awesome adventure!
Moral of the story is, sometimes it’s best to relax, put your head down and do your job. Don’t give yourself the ability to use this event as an excuse for not accomplishing your tasks. You are better than that.
Of course this is not a blanket statement. Some situations we are completely unable to do normal tasks. I also don’t recommend using this advice as a way to do stuff you don’t want to be doing. If you work a 9-5 and you hate your life DON’T use this.
3. Cultivate a Rich Social Network
Your entire identity is based on the people you interact with everyday. Remove the setting and the character is removed.
Hang out with good friends that treat you right and a support system for you. Don’t hang out with people to complain about your life. You can talk about what’s going on with you but make the most of it and focus on how you can change it.
We are social beings. It said that emotional pain is actually treated by your body as worse than physical pain. Isolation is one of the worst things you can for someone’s health and psyche.
Go out with friends that you genuinely like to spend time with. Hang out with winners and people who don’t put you down. Be honest with yourself and your friends will be honest back.
4. Help People
Your life is dictated by brain chemicals. When you get a hug or feel angry those are different chemicals being excreted by your brain to make you feel that way.
We all have biological wiring in our brains that assures we function properly.
Here are some ways Altruism and giving back to others can improve your life by Psychology Today.
- Helps you feel more grateful for what you have – Good deeds are often done for those who are going through a difficult time, the experience can remind you that your own life is actually pretty good. Feel thankful for what you have.
- Distracts you from your own problems – focusing on someone else can actually pull you away from your own problems.
- Improves physical health – research has discovered that helping others can not only improve your mental health, it also can improve your physical well-being. Studies have found that volunteers tend to live longer and often have better physical health than non-volunteers.
5. Tell Yourself: You’re Going to Make It No Matter What
“No matter how bad it is, or how bad it gets I am going to make it” – Les Brown
Think back to the hardest time of your life. Doesn’t seem so bad when you look back at it, right?
Even in the hardest moments in your life when you think your life is imploding it’s (most often) not true. Think back to an even harder time in your life and build your self esteem. I conquered that event. It was very hard but I still made it out on top overtime.
Repeat to yourself “I’m going to make it no matter what” over and over again. Overtime, this will teach you to go above and beyond and conquer your fears and limitations.
6. Create a SWOT analysis of yourself
Note: this method will not work for all people.
One of my favorite methods to use. This method takes scenarios in my head and maps them out on paper to prove how not serious this event is.
List out your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats in life.
I recommend taking this a step further and add sub-bullets and examples.
A SWOT analysis allows you to look at your issues objectively and from many different perspectives. I do this when I need clarity on something. Drawing this out with a piece of paper helps my mind abstractly extract ideas and connect the dots.