5 Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up
Feel like giving up?
Ups and downs.
Is life as simple as that? You fall, you get back up. Well easier said than done.
Your problems may seem insurmountable right now. You may not want to show up in life. You may not want to get out of bed, socialize, or do virtually anything. After failing over and over again, achieving your goals may seem impossible. But guess what?
You’re ONE step away from success. Failure is the price of greatness. And you’ve paid your dues. So why back down now?
This article will show you not just how to feel confident but dominate in your field. A change in attitude will shift your energy from passive to active, from fearful to curious, and from vulnerable to bold.
Without further ado, here are the five game-changing things you can do when you feel like giving up.
1. Get Curious About Your Fears
Fear blinds our vision. Curiosity opens the doors to new possibilities. All fears have answers hidden inside them. You just need to dig.
Michael Jordan once said, “My attitude is that if you push me towards something that you think is a weakness, then I will turn that perceived weakness into a strength.”
Dissect your fears with curiosity. Audit yourself. Audit your environment. Afraid of losing your job? Build your skills, dedicate yourself to the tasks everyone avoids and become irreplaceable, then ask for a pay rise! Living with toxic people? Get rid of them! Living in the past? Draw a line in the sand and DON’T look back! focus your energy on your vision, get out there meet new people, network do something you’ve never done.
Become curious about your fears and learn from your pain. There are so many great books out there. Turn off the TV and start reading, you will be amazed at what you can learn about you own method of thinking. Work on one weakness at a time and you’ll come out as a winner!
2. Take Care of Your Health
Noah Galloway, an Iraq war veteran, lost his arm and leg when a roadside bomb exploded and flipped the military truck he was driving. Later when he spoke with Tom Bilyeu, Tom noticed he was in incredible shape. Tom asked him how he was so fit after years of depression, he said,
“I knew that I was always happier when I was healthier”.
Despite being in a difficult spot, Noah knew how important it was to keep his body healthy, did he feel like giving up? Yes of course but he credits this with being able to make it through the darkness and into the happy and productive life he enjoys now.
Your health determines your happiness. And happy people perform much better than others. So take charge of your physical health by focusing on the following:
- Diet – Food is your fuel. Replace processed foods with freshly cooked real food. Remove sugary snacks and fast food from your diet.
- Sleep – Without sleep, you’ll be running on fumes. Sleep a good 7-8 hours each night that you can.
- Exercise – Fitness or illness, you must choose one. Exercise at least 3 days a week.
3. Seek Help, You Aren’t In This Alone
When you fall into the abyss of hopelessness, you get stuck with a victim mentality. But it’s up to you to change that. Be brave enough to reach out to friends and family. Wear your heart on your sleeve and you will be amazed by the response. They’ll give you the courage and fortitude to keep going.
Also, learn from mentors and coaches. Even legendary athletes like Lebron James and Michael Jordan needed guidance to progress. A mentor with relevant experience will lift you up more effectively than anyone else. If you can’t find mentors, read the books written by them.
And finally, find allies. Find people who are on the same path and facing the same obstacles. Climbing up the mountain is easier if someone has your back.
4. Reconnect With Your Why
Noah Galloway, the army veteran mentioned earlier, says that you need to have something stronger than your fears. His ‘why’ was his children. Even after losing two limbs, he wanted to set an example for them.
He wanted to show his two boys what a man is, because that is what they would grow up to be. And he wanted to show his little girl what a man is, because that’s what she’d look for one day.
A practical way to know your why is to write in a journal every day. With some awareness, you can find the number one thing that matters to you.
When you feel like giving up, remember your why, your purpose. Your gifts and example can elevate other people. Don’t let them go to waste.
5. Take Small Steps to Build Courage
Courage is like — “A habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.” ― Brené Brown
Start taking small steps and you’ll find the courage to go further. This could mean having a weekly meeting with a mentor or perhaps working on your goals for 30 minutes every day.
When you move forward, your energy shifts. You are no longer stressed because you’re working on the source of that stress. You move toward your fears, and as a result, your fears lose their power.
Pain and friction are inevitable for growth and success. You have to go through the darkness to discover your power. Become curious about your fears and you’ll find the answers. Take the pain and turn it into your strength.
You are not alone. Take support from family and friends and learn from books and mentors. Whatever you lack now, you can gain by learning and taking action. Start moving forward, build momentum and see your confidence rise.
You can’t stop feeling fear. But you can stop feeding it.
This article is very spot on.
The thought of giving up crosses our minds from time to time, especially when you’re chasing your dreams and goals.
One thing I may add to the article is when you at the point of giving up, you should take in the feeling of not……… “giving a f***”
When you stop worrying about what may happen, what people may think, your chances of winning in life increases.
Seeking help like you said is powerful, two heads are always better than one. Things get more accomplished this way. That’s how corporations become multi-million dollar companies because they understood that help is essential.
Thanks for the awesome article my friend, keep up the good work.
I just love the way you guys present the things. You guys don’t only focus the super successful people, rather find it out from small to small incident. I just love be a part of FEARLESS MOTIVATION.
Appreciate your comment Sudip!
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i just love this post and highly motivating but just want to add that dont magnify your problem, let it be on its own real size. our life is much bigger than our life problems, just work on it.