Are you mediocre? No one enjoys feeling stuck in mediocrity. No one wants to admit they’re mediocre.
Yet, many of feel that we are. So we try harder. Work harder.
People feel mediocre because they forget (or never figured out) why they’re here, and instead of following their purpose, they’re following safety, or worse just existing.
Take an example of a business owner who is scared to branch out and instead sticks with the same, limiting, mediocre business model. His new idea could catapult him into mega success but the fear of failure has arrested his progress, resulting in a much slower and more painful demise. Or a talented employee who is suffocated in her work environment, but stays with it, because she doesn’t believe she could do better.
Are you one of these people? Are you settling for less than your potential because you’re afraid?
What are you protecting yourself from? Pain? Failure? Ok. Fair enough. But, what about pleasure?
What would your life look like if you focused on your strengths, clarified your motivations, let go of cognitive dissonance, and followed your bliss?
Bliss is following excitement—about life, work, relationships … you name it.
Safety is avoiding pain. The former pushes us to self-actualize, fully and authentically; the latter, well, it keeps us mediocre.
Remember those times when, seemingly out of nowhere, an opportunity to transform yourself appeared and you experienced fear?
That was your higher self calling you to take your life to another level. To not “just settle” for mediocrity. Because you know, you can DO MORE and BE MORE.
Do not settle for a minute longer. Take a look at these six steps to kill mediocrity;
1. Clarify Your Purpose
Why are you here? What gets you out of bed in the morning? Are you excited? How are you expressing your inner fire through your daily actions? A clarity of purpose inspires courage within us to follow our bliss and overcome fears.
2. Take Inventory
Write out a list of things you do on a regular basis, both personal and professional, including projects you’re working on. What are your motivations for these activities? Be honest.
3. 75% Rule
Now, test the inventory against the idea that … to avoid mediocrity, you should be giving at least 75% of yourself to everything you do with 100% being the goal, of course. If you’re giving anything on your list less than 75% of yourself, why are you settling? Could you do better? Why or why not? Be truthful. If your answer is a lot of why nots, go back to #1 or check #4.
4. Dispel Cognitive Dissonance
We are creatures of comfort, and at some point in our lives, we built a view of the world and personal goals that would deliver this comfort, this pleasure to us. For example, you grew up poor, so making money was important to you. Fast forward 20 years, and you have made some money, but something is still missing … that’s because that belief is now a trap. After all these years, that belief has become a part of your identity and since it has always been important, it must still be important. It feels that way. But what if no longer is? What if it morphed in something else? What if it never were, but was only a function of survival and not your true desire? Dig deeper for answers and be aware, the brain can play tricks on us. Something may seem so true, but it isn’t. Don’t be tricked; it will rob you of greatness.
After you have completed these four steps, what concrete action can you take to change your life in a way that would lead to more opportunities to give 100% and less situations where you’re trapped, out of guilt, habit, or fear, and are giving less than you could? Does that mean quitting a job, seeking out a new opportunity, starting your business, writing that book, or seizing a new adventure? Whatever it might be, this is your opportunity to step up and transform your life in a tangible way.
None of us is perfect and giving 100% on a regular basis, or even realising that we’re not, and thus falling into mediocrity, can be hard to both see and remedy alone. Therefore, I strongly encourage you to identify accountability mechanisms that would help push you to function at your 100%. These could be achieved through self-reflection, mentorship relationships, personal and professional development, a partner, and certainly a life coach. Whether you choose one or all of these, remember that the path to greatness is only, truly, possible with others by your side.
Doing what scares us is what makes us great. It forces us to level up.
The question remains: Are you going to settle for mediocrity or pursue greatness?